Hey guys n gals ,found some interesting story to share with u all.....

 

 

 

I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age..
Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong

success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down

from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little

eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also on the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at

the exact same time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree.  I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on

tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, Tammy's mother was not as an astute student of

language as my father. When Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did... fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot

see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year- old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the

brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to

properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years

old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the

words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.But I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon

football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just

climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career!!!

Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

Ø But
Ø Try
Ø If
Ø Might
Ø Would Have
Ø Should Have
Ø Could Have
Ø Can't
Ø Don't

Examples:
Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: "Catch the ball!"

Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more

often!"

So try to ponder on the toxic thoughts you do and change them.