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bajaj.suresh

hello sir i had just given 12th exam and now preparing for medical entrance i want to discuss every thing in detail so that u all can help me i am giving my problems

1) i am very much confused .

2)my family specially my mother want

a) i am able to clear any exam

b) i do household work.

c) i help my brother who is in 6th class in his studies who is really very stupid since his base is not good due to ignorance by my parents in chilhood he not even know table of12 properly so he need atleast 6 hours with very concentration but instead of studying he scold and beat me with bad language .

3)every time due to eldest child i have to listen my parents conflicts due to which i always remain mentally disturbed .

4) my grand father give property to my father after a big struggle of 16 years and in that also he is doing cheating due to which my parents always remin disturbed and their anger fall on me .

5) my both parents do job and my brother goes to school and u all are that a young child mind always wonder due to presence of T.V. , computer at home i am not able to study .

6) i try to study at institute but my mother 's orthodox thinking always says me no u can sit at home why you go there , there is no need you are alone at home then why can not you study at home etc.

7) i am not saying that all is not their fault there is also mine but since i have no friends i cannot discuss this with anyone i wanted to discuss this with a expert so that anyone can help me

i had seen so bad and days full of strugle that i want to give slap to my enemies and shut my relative's mouth and due the whole struggle i do not want to hurt my loving parents( who frusted due to this bad time) but want to ful fill their desires and dreams . so kindly help me so that i can reach to my goal and able to prevent my self from procrastation . HELP ME SINCE YOUR HELP CAN SAVE SOME ONE'S LIFE. THANKS IT IS IS LENTHY BUT I AM FEELING SOME LIGHT LIKE I HAS TOLD THIS ALL TO MY TRUE FRIEND AND HE/SHE WILL HELP ME DEFINATELY IN NICE WAY

bhupesh

Dear

(1) Stop blaming yourself, it seems that you are accepting yourself as the only reason of all these things, you are not. Blaming self results in low self esteem Please Stop blaming yourself by naming Bad Luck , Bad Times Struggled life etc . A best shot of yours will always bring Best result. I would say take it like this the present phase of your life is preparing you for very challenging and stressful career of a doctor (Have you see how they work in any of Emergency or Trauma centre)

(2) Don’t get in to the reasons for which you are feeling your study is being affected , Like the issues of property and internal parental issues , think as if you are the only one and you have to take it on by all yourself . You have to bring out that courage which is very much in you your self.

(3) There is saying in English if you are watching your aim rest of the hurdles in the way gets invisible so small issues like your kid brother should not bother you. If you really want to be a doctor than this single reason is enough to crack the entrance. If you don’t want to be you will find as many as you want.

(4) About the coaching classes talk to your parents, have courage to do that and show them your confidence and you true aspiration of becoming a doctor. They will surly come up with an answer if they don’t again it’s you who is going to find out a way out.

Best of Luck for your future.

prakhar_galaxy

Actually Suresh the problems whihc u r facing most of all is faced by all eldest brothers or sisters who r in the house
But the diff is dat theu don't hav a communication gap b/w their parents
Actuallty yaar i shud tell u it in much broad way
I think yaar parents r also humans sometimes yaar they also fail to understand the actual problem of their child
& this mainly occurs when there is a communication gap means the child don't talk freely to his parents about his problems
Also this problem comes in where both parents r working
For this i advice u 1 thing
Yaar first of alll don't afraid of ur parents .Talk to them freely about ur problems
Tell them dat while preparing for medical entrance u can't do so much of extra work like studying ur brother,doin household work
Yaar tonite make them sit together & tell them all this dat u hav written here
daro mat yaar wo bhi tumhara bhala hi chahte hain
wo tumhare dushman nahin hai but bcoz of other problem wo tumhe & tumhari problems ko dekh nahin pa rahe
If u will tell them then they surely find a better option for u & help by keeping u free of all other resposibilities except 1 preparing for Medical Entrance
Still if they didn't get it ,
then yaar u can do one thing bring them on net i will chat with them & explain them it to u & try to realise them wat mistake they r doin
I will be available anytime
Just ask me for a suitable date & time
hope it helps
bye

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